I came out to my mom in a text message at 11pm after attending a Bible study. I was scared to wake up the next day, I wasnāt sure what sheād say, but I wanted her opinion. I didnāt want to live a double life, didnāt want to lie, and wanted to hear from her. When I think of someone who embodies Christ and is loving .. I think of my mom. \n\nI lucked out because I grew up in a split household where religion was never forced on me. I had a parent who attended church regularly, wanted me to be exposed to Christianity and another who wasnāt into organized religion. This made it easier for me to CHOOSE what I wanted for my life, what my faith looked like, and made coming out easier. Growing up in the south though .. I really had no idea. I grew up dating men, had a bf in hs, had a long term one in college and then stopped seriously dating men after that. Iād go on dates, but something was off. I wanted to be best friends, hike, hang out, talk but never wanted to go home at the end of the night. I saw my friends marry guys, obsess over them, and realized ⦠I couldnt ever get there personally. When I visited Seattle, it was the first time I realized ⦠you donāt have to marry a man if you donāt want to. You can explore and so I did that for 3 years. \n\nI dated women. Tried to date some men and made friends out of that. The best thing that came from trying to date men was getting really solid hiking buddies (I did The Enchantments / 23 miles in a day with a guy from Tinder - will never forget thatš) Most people assume that because I prefer women, am marrying a woman, I must be a lesbian. I never correct anyone, I donāt really care, but I self identify as bi-sexual. I feel like itās almost worse to be bi because youāre over sexualized by the straight community, not quite accepted by the gay community. People assume that youāre not comfortable with yourself. Also .. why would you CHOOSE a harder life?!\n\nI personally see sexuality as a spectrum. Straight and Gay are the two extremes. I believe more people fall in the middle than are aware or open to admit to themselves / others. You can also lean more towards one gender, your preferences can change throughout your lifetime, and ultimately only you know whatās right for you. Who you spend your life with is no one elseās decision to make. For me personally, I never get offended when people assume Iām straight, assume I have a husband, assume Iām a lesbian, stereotype, or think they have me all figured out. Sometimes itās just easier to let people make their assumptions and move on. \n\nWho you marry is the single most important decision in your life. You can always quit a job, move, back out of commitments, but the person you spend every day with will impact all those other areas. Iām proud to be spending my life with someone who is honest, trustworthy, kind, silly, low maintenance, loves the outdoors as much as me, encourages my faith, and believes in me. Lifes gets more fun when youāre honest. \n\n#pridemonth