You’re wasting an enormous amount of energy trying to make everyone else understand your choices.
Your career decisions.
Your goals.
The risks you’re taking.
The changes you’re making in your life.
You explain it one way, then another - hoping that if you just say it right, people will finally get it.
And a lot of the time, the people who question your changes the most are the people closest to you. Not because they don’t love you, but because they’re trying to make sense of your choices through THEIR lens - their fears, their experiences, their limits.
It’s okay to want them to understand. It hurts when they don’t! That’s why you explain and explain and explain your decision - because you’re trying to alleviate the pain you feel when someone questions, judges, or criticizes you. Because it feels like rejection.
But you’re not responsible for managing their understanding. The only person your decisions need to make sense to is you.
So if you’re building something new, pivoting in your career, taking a leap, or choosing a path that doesn’t look like everyone else’s…
Stop spending your energy explaining your life, and put that energy into living it.
Your career decisions.
Your goals.
The risks you’re taking.
The changes you’re making in your life.
You explain it one way, then another - hoping that if you just say it right, people will finally get it.
And a lot of the time, the people who question your changes the most are the people closest to you. Not because they don’t love you, but because they’re trying to make sense of your choices through THEIR lens - their fears, their experiences, their limits.
It’s okay to want them to understand. It hurts when they don’t! That’s why you explain and explain and explain your decision - because you’re trying to alleviate the pain you feel when someone questions, judges, or criticizes you. Because it feels like rejection.
But you’re not responsible for managing their understanding. The only person your decisions need to make sense to is you.
So if you’re building something new, pivoting in your career, taking a leap, or choosing a path that doesn’t look like everyone else’s…
Stop spending your energy explaining your life, and put that energy into living it.