When I was in London, I once told a local British man that my mother tongue was English, and he looked surprised.
My English was not at the level he expected for someone to say itâs their mother tongue.
Now I could get offended. Because âhey! I speak other languages, do you??â
But I can see why he would think that. My pronunciation was âMalaysian-influencedâ.
So I smiled and said:
âAre you surprised?â
âYes but I hope you donât find that offensive.â
âOf course not. I do, however, speak 2 other languages.â
âWow! Why is that?â We went on to have a conversation about why Malaysians speak many languages.
Thatâs how to create a bridge with someone different from you.
Instead, today itâs common for people to get easily and quietly offended in person, and then unleash their true feelings online. And the keyboard warriors start shouting at each other in the comments section.
Hereâs what I think:
1) Donât get easily offended, people see the world differently. You might think like them if you grew up the same way.
2) If you are offended, then talk directly. Maybe someone misunderstood. Maybe you donât agree.
3) Move on with your life.
I typically stop at Step 1, my life is happier and more productive that way.
This is a better way to live together as a tolerant society.