When I first became the āboss,ā I was a 20-something woman with a newborn at home. Everything was new, both at home and work. My first baby and my first brand. I was learning!
I remember overhearing that a couple of employees left because āthey didnāt want to report into a leader who was younger than them, had no experience, no fixed time in office and (to them) no aspiration or inspiration.ā And to be honest, that stung.
I questioned myself: Am I too young? Too inexperienced? For a while, imposter syndrome kicked in hard. But then I made a decision. I could either let othersā biases define me, or I could let my work do the talking.
I doubled down on learning every aspect of the business, showed up to meetings with confidence (even if I had to fake it initially), and, importantly, I owned my identity as a woman leader, a mompreneur, instead of trying to āfit in.ā
Fast forward to a few years later, some of those very people who left actually reapplied to our company, and this time they had no issues reporting to me. Life has a funny way of coming full circle.
The lesson I carry from this: being a woman in leadership, or a young mom in leadership, can feel like you have extra eyes on you, waiting for you to slip. But thatās fine, give them a show of excellence they canāt ignore. And even if you do feel you slipped, itās ok because itās your journey and itās never complete without our share of failures.
Losing those people 7 years back felt like a failure to me. But now I know, that pushed me to work even harder, and become the best version of myself.
Find your allies: family, mentors, peers, and team members who believe in you.
To any woman facing bias: I see you. And I canāt promise it gets better, but I can promise itās all worth it.
Every time you prove a stereotype wrong, youāre not just helping yourself but making the path a bit smoother for the next generation of female leaders. Remember that, and donāt let anyone else be the reason you quit.
So, I will say, keep going because the best revenge is massive success.