Shivani Berry

Dear working moms, balance is SH*T.

When I was pregnant with Reya, I was super stressed about how do I make sure I'm giving my all at work while being an amazing mom.

But I've learned the hard way that giving my 100% to both is just not possible in today's setup. Instead, everything works in ebbs and flows.

After returning to work from my maternity leave, I was anxious all the time. I would end my day feeling so much guilt because I wasn't there as much as I wanted for my baby girl.

And I also didn't get everything I wanted to be done for work. It was so mentally draining. 😖

Then, I realized that I had the wrong approach.

There's gonna be some days where I'm going to give more to work and there'll be some days where I'm gonna give more to Reya.

And it's up to me to figure out what feels good to me.

So now, there might be a day where I spend 30 minutes less playing with her or I ask someone else to help make her baby food because I'm going to use that time to work.

And there are other days when I knock off one thing on my to-do list because I would rather go take my baby out for a walk. 👩‍🍼

It's been hard letting go of the guilt of not excelling in either part but defining my own way has made things much better for me.

Major shoutout to all the career mamas who are creating an impact at work and in their children's lives. 😍

Any tips or strategies that you use, would love to hear.

#womenleaders #mompreneur #womenintech #leadership #momlife

“Women hesitate to advocate for raises, more responsibility, or rewards for their work out of a concern that they’ll be labeled bossy or arrogant when they do, and these concerns have merit.

These labels have consequences because women face additional barriers to their career advancement when they’re seen as unlikeable, something that isn’t true for men.“

— Harvard Business Review

This is the heartbreaking reality 💔

Women are afraid to showcase their ambition.

Women are reluctant to ask for the opportunities they want.

Women are expected to be grateful for whatever is given to them.

Women are labeled for every move they make.

Ambition in a man is celebrated and supported. But ambition in women is a cause of concern.

Why is it that women are walking around on eggshells, afraid they might make a wrong move, even when they are deserving and qualified?

We need to change the narrative. Now.

#womenleaders #womenintech #leadershipdevelopment #womeninbusiness