If you don’t tell your story, someone may tell a wrong one about you.

This happened a couple of years back

It was at the end of a project meeting and I had been involved in the project for a couple of weeks. As we were leaving the room, someone ask me casually.

ā€œHeard you were from the navy, must be an interesting time thereā€.

Before I could answer, someone else chimed in.

ā€œMaybe he was just part of the administrative office and never worked on the shipsā€.

I politely explained my experience.

That’s was one of the times that I realized that if you don’t tell your story, someone else may be telling it for you and you don’t know what they are saying/thinking.

So here’s my story.

I joined the Singapore Armed Forces at 19, just like all male Singaporeans as part of our National Service or conscription. All males serve 2 years (2.5 during my time).

My first choice was to be a pilot in the Air Force. Cleared preliminary competency tests but didn’t clear the medical. They couldn’t risk even a minor medical report from a fall when I was 11 years old.

That put me at a crossroads. Do I select a career in the Navy or do I just serve my 2 years and pursue other alternatives paths?

I seeked many opinions.
But none more so than my dad.

After all, he made that similar choice, 30 years ago. Serving the Navy and rising the ranks. He was Commander of the Coastal Command at that time. (Even if I continued in the navy, it was unlikely that I’ll reach that pinnacle).

He didn’t push or pull.
He just laid out the pros and cons and left me to make my own decision.

And that’s how I started my naval career.
Served for 15 years till I was 34.

As a full fledged naval warfare officer.
On the newest and most active ships in the navy.
Not just in an administrative role.

So rem to tell your story.
You don’t know what others are saying or thinking.