Paul Carrick Brunson

7-hour flight with masks, multiple COVID tests, and a 10-day quarantine, “the kids won’t be able to handle it” 😱⁣
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That’s what I was told by a few people before our trip today back to the UK but too many underestimate the resiliency of children.⁣
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After our flight, Kingston and Liam said they had such a good time they wanted to CONTINUE with a 7-hour flight to Ghana (their current top destination to visit).⁣
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It’s a blessing they have this outlook in face of the current obstacles to travel, but I’m sharing credit with my wife on this 😉. Resilient children are raised by resilient parents. ⁣
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Jill and I do our best to model resilency by openly admitting our feelings and we also focus on promoting the brighter side of ALL experiences. Optimism and resiliency go hand in hand. ⁣
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The beauty of optimism is that while it naturally appears more in certain people, it can be nurtured (at any age). Remember 👉🏾 At. Any. Age.

The “secret“ to networking:

Give, give, give, give, give, give, give, give, give, give, give, give, give, give, give, give, give, give, give, give, give, give, give, give, give, give, give, give, give, give, give, give, give, give, give, give, give, give, give, give, give, give, give, give, give, give, give, give, give, ask.

My wife and I celebrate 18 years of marriage today 🙏🏾⁣⁣
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We’ve gone through everything meant to tear us apart and not only have we survived, we’re stronger than ever.⁣⁣
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Here are 8 lessons we’ve learned about how to build a strong relationship:⁣⁣
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1️⃣ The best time to work on your marriage is before you get married - Know your boundaries & beliefs before looking for love.
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2️⃣ Your friends are not relationship experts - Don’t involve anyone in your relationship, unless they can give you counsel. Remember, advice is when someone tells you what THEY think. Counsel is when someone helps YOU to think.⁣⁣
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3️⃣ Relationships are never 50/50. At times you give more and other times you take more.
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4️⃣ Call, show up, and deliver what & when you say you will. Inconsistency destroys trust and trust is the foundation of your relationship. ⁣⁣
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5️⃣ Listening to your partner’s problems without passing judgement is one of the kindest things you can do. ⁣⁣
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6️⃣ If you don’t hold to your boundaries you will turn the best intentioned partner into a bully.⁣⁣
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7️⃣ There's no such thing as a stagnant relationship. It's either growing or dying. There's no in between.⁣⁣
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8️⃣ Knowing you're not perfect isn't an excuse to keep making the same mistakes.

I’m proud of the man I’ve become.

Not perfect but I’m faithful to my wife, my children, my friends, and my God.

I’ve been blessed with a unique lifestyle that allows me to live between different countries, interact with different people, and work in different industries.

All that difference has taught me to sit and observe how to navigate life from a different angle.

Below are some of the BIGGEST lessons I’ve learned. My full list is here: https://lnkd.in/ecKgJcr

Please let me know which resonate most with you:

11. The most important decision you’ll make is who you marry.

10. Some of the most toxic people you meet will enter your life disguised as family or friends.

9. If you are too afraid to do it, someone else will.

8. Never trust anyone who wants to be friends with everyone.

7. Every man I know wants a good girl who will be bad only for him.

6. Every woman I know wants a bad boy who will be good only for her.

5. People decide what to think of you based on how they think you think of yourself.

4. You will always be disposable to everyone who hires you.

3. The more streams of income you have, the easier life becomes.

2. If you want the truth, follow the money.

1. You are so much stronger than you think.

Get comfortable with people not liking you...

Now I’ll admit, this was something that’s been difficult for me to embrace in my life as well but there are 3 major things that will help you develop this skill:

1️⃣ When people don’t like you, it’s not about you. Instead, it’s their negative projection based on a characteristic you have (could be ethnicity, accent, nationality, etc)

2️⃣ Ask yourself if the person who dislikes you is currently adding to your life. 99% of the time, they’re not. The random comment on social media, the stranger on the train, etc. These people are meaningless in your life, and therefore, their opinions should be treated the same.

3️⃣ Spend an enormous amount of time around people you love. Think of this like a “hater defense battery.” The more time you spend with loved ones, the greater your charge, and the easier it is not to care about people disliking you. Love reinforces you that it is only the opinion of those you truly care about that matters.

🙏 Remember: YOU DO NOT NEED ANYONE OR ANYTHING TO APPROVE YOUR SELF-WORTH.

No lies told...

If we are what we read, this is who I am.

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