Maybe it's a thing with other 60 year olds as well, but sometimes I find my thoughts going back to things from my past. It could be my childhood, summers in my hometown, business partners, my early years in the films, things I wish Iâd done differently or some decisions I now regret.
Beating yourself up over things you regret could be unproductive. Instead, I look at those mistakes as valuable lessons to learn from, and focus on the future.
My personal life has been blessed with a solid foundation. In my professional journey though, I have my fair share of regrets.
Entered underprepared - I had virtually no acting skills when I got my first movie. I was fit & great at action, thatâs all. My diction & body language were poor. I didn't know a thing about film-making. It didn't take the critics long to spot my flaws. People said unkind things, & for a long time I remained stubborn & focussed just on my strengths, instead of working on my weaknesses. Destiny will get you to a point. Beyond that, itâs down to what you make of it.
Market positioning - In the early years of my career, I had no strategy at play. My decisions lacked pattern. On one hand Iâd deliver a big budget hit & on the other my next movie would end up being a low budget, poorly made & badly marketed one. My actions left the market confused. I didn't know the value of positioning. If you donât define yourself, no one else can.
Personal branding - In the movie business, failures get a lot of attention. But for some reason, I never ensured that my successes were spoken of. Over a 30 year career, Iâve never turned up late for a shoot or ever caused any troubles on set, yet I found it odd to market or pitch my discipline & commitment. Truth is, people need to know what youâre made of. Donât oversell yourself or lie about your skills, but if youâre making an impact, it can't hurt to speak about it.
Leveraging success - There were several people I really wished to collaborate & work with. Despite several highs in the first 20 years, I never reached out to them. It really wasn't an ego thing, but probably just how my upbringing was. I believed that my work would speak for itself. Truth is, if you want something, you need to ask for it. And if you donât ask, the answer is always no! Simple as that.
DIdn't always follow my heart - When I forayed into the real estate business, I was excited by the idea of building niche products like holiday homes. Yet, to start with, I focused more on those conventional large projects because they seemed like the 'right thing' to do. To an extent, that took away the joy I was looking for, & course correction cost me a few years!
Truth is, things get a lot worse than they should when we take longer to acknowledge mistakes.
God has been really kind. What I lacked in wisdom, I made up for by the sheer will to survive.
Yet, if I could go back in time & change something, itâd be my ability to recognise my shortfalls & fix them a lot sooner!
#regrets
Beating yourself up over things you regret could be unproductive. Instead, I look at those mistakes as valuable lessons to learn from, and focus on the future.
My personal life has been blessed with a solid foundation. In my professional journey though, I have my fair share of regrets.
Entered underprepared - I had virtually no acting skills when I got my first movie. I was fit & great at action, thatâs all. My diction & body language were poor. I didn't know a thing about film-making. It didn't take the critics long to spot my flaws. People said unkind things, & for a long time I remained stubborn & focussed just on my strengths, instead of working on my weaknesses. Destiny will get you to a point. Beyond that, itâs down to what you make of it.
Market positioning - In the early years of my career, I had no strategy at play. My decisions lacked pattern. On one hand Iâd deliver a big budget hit & on the other my next movie would end up being a low budget, poorly made & badly marketed one. My actions left the market confused. I didn't know the value of positioning. If you donât define yourself, no one else can.
Personal branding - In the movie business, failures get a lot of attention. But for some reason, I never ensured that my successes were spoken of. Over a 30 year career, Iâve never turned up late for a shoot or ever caused any troubles on set, yet I found it odd to market or pitch my discipline & commitment. Truth is, people need to know what youâre made of. Donât oversell yourself or lie about your skills, but if youâre making an impact, it can't hurt to speak about it.
Leveraging success - There were several people I really wished to collaborate & work with. Despite several highs in the first 20 years, I never reached out to them. It really wasn't an ego thing, but probably just how my upbringing was. I believed that my work would speak for itself. Truth is, if you want something, you need to ask for it. And if you donât ask, the answer is always no! Simple as that.
DIdn't always follow my heart - When I forayed into the real estate business, I was excited by the idea of building niche products like holiday homes. Yet, to start with, I focused more on those conventional large projects because they seemed like the 'right thing' to do. To an extent, that took away the joy I was looking for, & course correction cost me a few years!
Truth is, things get a lot worse than they should when we take longer to acknowledge mistakes.
God has been really kind. What I lacked in wisdom, I made up for by the sheer will to survive.
Yet, if I could go back in time & change something, itâd be my ability to recognise my shortfalls & fix them a lot sooner!
#regrets